At the beginning of the New Year we tend to reflect on the past and vow to do better this coming year and set our Resolutions. I saw on a news program recently that only 8% of people actually follow through and reach the goals that have set for the new year. I think that is a terrible number but we all know why we don’t meet those goals – our everyday life and responsibilities get in the way. How can I get to the gym today when after work I have to take my son to the orthodontist and pick up groceries, and fix dinner, and then I am too tired. The list goes on and on and it is a valid list. There is a lot of “stuff” that needs to get done everyday.
However, I am one of the 8% and know it can be done by following two simple rules.
I wrote and published Talk To Me – Round Pen Work From the Horse’s Point of View while working as a full time high school Biology teacher, being a Mom, running my farm/business Palomino Acres, and caring for my Mother who recently passed away from stomach cancer. I know if I can do it so can everybody else. Really – I only followed two rules.
Rule number one: Stay positive. I know this can be the hardest part especially when life events are not happy and you see little progress towards your goal, but it is essential. When you are positive about other areas of your life the attitude will transfer into all areas of your life including your goals. The better state of mind you are in the more able you are to tackle and deal with tasks whether they be physical or emotional.
Think back to a special moment in your life. Spend a few minutes re-living that moment, what things looked like, who was there, what was said, how you felt. After spending a few minutes lost in those thoughts – how do you feel now? At the end of each day as I am waiting for sleep to come, I pick out the best moment of the day and re-live it. I always go to bed feeling happy and generally wake up happy. Occasionally I have a moment I call a “Keeper”. A moment so precious to me that I never want to forget it. These are the ones I journal about so I will have a permanent record but they are also the ones I go back to when I am having a bad day. You don’t have to journal, those special moments stay with you, I do because I like to write and I enjoy going back and reading about those events.
I shared several of those “Keepers” in Talk To Me but my favorite one was when I was working with Hugsy in the round pen (p31) and Hugsy finally gave me an inside turn. Every time I think of that moment I am filled with joy – sometimes to the point a few tears of joy escape my eyes. This past summer we went on vacation and it was the first year Ian was big enough to ride the adult rollercoaster. We waited a long time in line and when it was our turn to get in the car Ian didn’t want to because he was scared. I talked him into going on the ride. As they were buckling us in he turns to me and says, “Mom, if I need you to, will you hold me.” That moment is burned into my heart and mind and fills me with love whenever I think about it. By the way – he laughed the whole ride – he didn’t need me. For Christmas this year I bought my husband Larry his first saddle, a Classic Billy Cook, a major milestone for Larry. The gentleman who sold the saddle brought it to the barn so we could make sure it fit Larry’s horse. I have a physical picture but I don’t need it – the look on Larry’s face when the saddle he had hunted for, for months fit his horse is priceless. Again, that memory fills me with love.
These thoughts and the other “Keepers” are there for me when I need a boost of positivity. Even though they may not be related to my goal, or anything going on in my life at that moment, they put me in the right frame of mind to not only deal with life but to continue with whatever goal I have set, which leads to rule number two.
Rule number two: Do at least one small thing each day towards your goal. You have heard the saying that each journey starts with the first step. That is true and often it takes a lot of courage to take that first step. But, the journey ends if you don’t take another step and another. Some days those steps might be small baby steps, some days you will cover a mile towards your goal. The point is each step, no matter how big or small gets you closer to where you want to be. If you don’t take one small step each day you lose momentum and the next days step feels harder.
So how am I doing so far on my 2015 goals? I cleaned my basement!!! (And this wasn’t a baby step or even a mile – it was a marathon!) If you go back and read my last blog post – that isn’t even one of my goals! However, the basement is our main entrance into the house and it has also become a catch-all for everything we don’t want upstairs. It was a mess. I saw this mess every time I left and entered the house. The mess made me feel grumpy – which breaks rule number 1. So, I went through everything and made three piles, keep, sell, trash. I organized the keep and the basement looks great and every time I enter or leave the house I feel a sense of accomplishment. The stuff in the trash pile is gone. The stuff in the sell pile is going to be sold on-line and the money used to buy a custom made saddle for Neil. Conditioning Neil for Endurance Trail riding is one of my goals.
Another of my goals it to promote Talk To Me to an Amazon best seller. Everyday I am on some form of social media promoting it as will setting up book signings. I have a goal to write another book – Talk To Me Too – Neil’s story. I have not yet started writing the actual chapters but I do have a notebook that I keep with me and write down sentences or ideas that pop into my head. In addition to cleaning the basement and selling items so I can buy a custom saddle for Neil I have purchased a CD that will help me through the process. I am waiting until Spring to set dates for the Talk To Me Too clinics – the round pen is outside and the weather isn’t cooperating, plus I will schedule these around Ian’s Lacrosse games. In cleaning the basement I also reclaimed my Reiki room so I can add humans to my list of Reiki clients. I have also started creating a flyer to advertise Reiki sessions. I have built up a lot of momentum in the first week of January. As long as I do one small thing a day – that momentum will continue and in December I can look back on 2015 and say, “Wow – look what I accomplished this year.”
Comment on one of your “Keeper” moments or what your first step will be towards your goal, or what you will do to get the momentum going. Sharing with others is also a motivator.
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The pictures below are of my son Ian and husband Larry and our new horse Neil.